A very wonderfully emition-driven piece of post you've got there. I'm truly sorry for what happened to you… and I've seen how tramatizing it can be for others.. (had some friends who went though the same thing).
Summary of my post below:
And I'm about to do a long post which might seem like I'm suggesting that all victims of pedophiles/rapists grow up to be criminals. I just want you to know this isn't the case– I'm just merely pointing out how the majority of pedophiles, once they have been caught or admit to being pedophiles… have talked about thier history of being abused themselves once.
They were once scared, abused kids themselves too at one point….and unfountely they were also the kind of kid who started acting out in the wrong ways, which put them on the track to becoming pedophiles.
So to me that suggests that at one point this mental illness can be cured, but only if it's caught EARLY in the stage. The more the person grows older without help or an healthy outlet in which to express the emtional trauma they went though, the harder it's going to be to cure this illness. Because the more a kid who turned to crime in order to act out grows older, this kind of thing can take a very deep root into thier core. Making thier new pedophilic tendeices virtually impossible to cure. If course, not all of pedophiles were abused children at one point. There's also a small pergecantage of pedophiles who simply grew up having some sort of mental disorder. There IS a difference between a mental illness and an disorder, after all.
Unfountely, not many people know about how pedophila is caused, and that the effects on vicitms are more sereve than they'd like to admit. I feel that if more people learned and studied about this horrific crime, more people would take the correct steps to stamp out almost all forms of pedophila and “cure” it competely
however… I have to point out a few things. 80% to 90% of pedophiles were once victims themselves. It's known that they get their start at a very young age. They were abused at a very young age, and then were unable to get the help for the mental tramna they endured thanks to a couple of factors:
1)Their family members were the ones who sexually abused them for years. So while at the start they knew they hated this, they grew up starting to think this sort of thing was normal. And in a close knit family people tend to keep this vile secret better than others would, especially if there's more than one family member paricrating or enabling this kind of behavior. Believe it or not, there's been various cases of Female pedophiles hooking up with male pedophiles so that they could have children which they could have easy access to 24/7.
And so they raise their kids to be pedophiles too. the kids grow up thinking that this addiction to power is okay.
2)The victims were threatened to keep this secret or else, and so they have no real outlet. They feel like they cannot tell anybody… or that if they did, they feel like nobody would believe them anyway. So they never got the help they needed, because nobody never knew.
Some of them don't know how to deal with this, and so like in human nature–when being hurt and upset they want to hurt others in order to make themselves feel better. So they slowly and surely start to get addicted to the power of raping others that are younger and more helpless than they are.
3) The second worst situation next to the whole family being pedophiles, in my opinion. The family finds out, But instead of getting their children the help and counseling they needed…they sweep it under the rug and try to pretend that it never happened, hoping that the kids would forget over time. Or worse, they don't want to believe that their kids have been abused… so they deny it and turn a blind eye, allowing it to go on for a while. And in thier guilt or denial, they tend to very leniet on the kids should thier kids start to lash out at society as a whole. They even find excuses or some other reasons for why the kids might act out in such a while, if they're going down the denial route. Anything but that big, bad “Molested” word.
All this enables mental trauma to deeply take root within those young kids' minds in a way where it's very difficult to be cured. This sort of thing can ‘lock’ the kids' minds to the point where they grow up to have the mentality of a kid who feels like he/she can only hurt others in order to feel better and to feel like they're back in control of their lives, and become a being that's so addicted to the feeling of power that they can only feel arousal every time they see a kid and think dirty thoughts. So they become the very thing they feared and hated as children, in order to cope with what had been done with them in the past. Not even realizing that they had became unhealthy… all they can think of is regaining that power and control they so desperately crave.
serial rapists go though a simlar pattern too.
I firmly believe that the only way we can stop pedophilia and the rapists from existing is to go down two paths:
1)Educate everyone about how pedophilia gets started, so that they know what to do, such as getting all known and discovered victims the help they need. Such as teaching them about having healthy outlets in which they can express all the pain they went though. Because not all kids know how to express themselves like that properly, and like rape victims it can also help if they attend classes where they learn about symptoms of mental trauma, etc. By learning more about this and how they can prevent this, they start to regain the feeling of control over their own lives. By cutting down the mental illness soon as it starts, we ensure that some of the affected kids doesn't grow up to be future pedophiles. And if there are no more pedophiles in the future, then pedophilia will eventually die out save for those who had mental disorders. Of course, not all victims of pedophiles would come foward, but the more we make this kind of thing public knowledge– on how to help yourself, etc…. the more they feel that they aren't alone and know what to do about it even if they don't want to admit to the public that they've been molested.
2) the more extreme route– We all publicly excuete all pedophiles and rapists. To make all the adults out there think twice about doing anything bad. After all, not even the people with mental disorders want to be killed in such a fashion. of course there would still be the stupid ones who think that they can get away with anything…
But here's some problems with this– There's been plenty of people who has been accused falsely of rape and pedophilia.
Ever hear about that one time where three boys deidced to make up a story about their coach molesting them out of petty revenge for not letting them on the team where they could be popular? That poor coach was in jail for ten years before two of the boys finally confessed as adults that they lied. And then there was that case of that girl who didn't want her mom to marry a new guy, as seeing she wanted her parents to get back together… so she LIED that mom's boyfriend raped her.
We should look into every clam that kids make, but we cannot overlook the fact that sometimes kids AND ADULTS can lie about such a serious thing out of petty revenge. And then we'd end up killing off innocent men and women.
Just think about that–which is the best way of curing pedophila?