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deletedbyrequest03 at 9:17PM, April 6, 2008
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Some of us deal with our problems in different ways. I'm sure you have all had a day when nothing seemed to go right, and may not for many weeks on end. Tell me, how do you deal with your problems? Do you do something strange, or do you just simply take a deep breath?

Well, what I do is listen to music. Then, if that doesn't work, I sing loudly with the music. When that doesn't work, I play the song and sing it. If that doesn't work, then my problem must be pretty bad. But it never has been.

Sometimes, I talk about my problems to my brother, and he helps me out with them. I also talk to friends I know I can trust that won't blurt anything out in public. We all need at least one of those.

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Custard Trout at 9:45PM, April 6, 2008
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I bottle it up until I want to kill myself and everyone around me.

I should probably stop doing that.
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imshard at 10:37PM, April 6, 2008
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I go meditate. If I can't do that for some reason, or I'm not allowed to… I usually go ballistic.
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mishi_hime at 11:22PM, April 6, 2008
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I bottle it up until I want to kill myself and everyone around me.

I should probably stop doing that.

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crocty at 11:50PM, April 6, 2008
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I bottle it up until I want to kill myself and everyone around me.

I should probably stop doing that.
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Skullbie at 11:56PM, April 6, 2008
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I bottle it up until I want to kill myself and everyone around me.

I should probably stop doing that.
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ozoneocean at 12:04AM, April 7, 2008
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Stop that. It was funny once. -_-

When I get steamed, I calm down normally. Even for something bad it only takes a few hours. For something small it's much shorter. Listening to music and having a read of a good book, or going for a long walk are good cures for things that really shake you up.

And I don't hold grudges, so that helps ^_^
 
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anonymousposterchild at 12:07AM, April 7, 2008
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I take all of my problems, condense them into a little ball and then keep pouring booze on them until they die.
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Frostflowers at 1:03AM, April 7, 2008
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I don't get upset all that often - at least not to the extent that I have to consciously think about how to calm down - but when I do, it usually helps to go away for a while and just think about something else - anything else - until the immediate anger fades. Then, I talk it out with my parents or my friends or whomever.
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Lonnehart at 1:04AM, April 7, 2008
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I try to sit down and slow things down in my mind, then think of which problems I should take care of now and which can wait 'til later…

For those other problems I simply sit on the porecelain throne, relax as best as I can, and let them all fall out…
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lefarce at 1:15AM, April 7, 2008
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I imagine myself killing the person who upsets me, or really act out by doing terrible twisted things like donate money to presidential campaigns. Surely, I am a monster.

 
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Steely Gaze at 10:58AM, April 7, 2008
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Well I'm hopefully completely normal and sane in that I usually talk it out with someone, if it's a major problem, or just go out for some nice fresh air.

If worse comes to worse and none of these techniques help, I just sit down and write whatever pops into my head. That always calms me down.
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CoyoteLongshot at 12:05PM, April 7, 2008
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TheMidge28 at 12:14PM, April 7, 2008
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walk away.
vent to someone.
light one up.
speak to the person who got you angry or frustrated and talk it out with them.





if none of that works…
seek anger management counseling.

but for me most of the time I laugh.
I don't take a majority of things so seriously.
Crack a joke.
Make light of the situation…

when appropriate.
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Glarg at 12:39PM, April 7, 2008
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I draw myself…killing the person or thing that has pissed me off…It was a trick my therapist taught me some time ago to vent out my aggression. But mostly I use the anger for character design and development, I love the adrenaline rush that is brought on by anger and I can make some pretty sick and twisted stuff with it! :)

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crocty at 12:55PM, April 7, 2008
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Stop that. It was funny once. -_-
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I used to express my feelings a lot, but then my high school decided to teach me that that's wrong, and I should never express my feelings. So when I finally release all my anger, they decide to put me in isolation for 3 days, and then teach me that I should always express my feelings. Then when I do I get told off.

It kinda annoys me.
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Salsicoruc at 2:32PM, April 7, 2008
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My family really frowns upon showing emotion, so I use to bottle things up all the time and my family used to send me to a therapist often when I responded to things emotionally.

Later I learned that the way my family deals with things is really unhealthy so now I usually vent in a diary, blog, doodle, whatever, or I discuss it with my friend. I have the best friend ever. She's got to a be a goddess or something; she's so patient with me.

I also crack jokes a lot. I have a tendency for off-color humor anyway, so it works.
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AQua_ng at 2:34PM, April 7, 2008
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I make mental blogs.

And then mentally move them to the mental recycling bin.

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dueeast at 3:25PM, April 7, 2008
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If it's mild irritation, I'll just let out a deep sigh and take some deep breaths, try to get my mind on something else…maybe walk around a little, go outside and get some air.

If I'm pretty much by myself and it's a more moderate to severe situation, I'll have to work hard at restraining myself. If I'm not doing a good job at that, I'll close my eyes and say a silent prayer. I may have to keep on saying it inside my head until I feel myself calming down.

Sometimes it helps to talk with someone – my wife or a friend or a coworker (if I'm at work) and just get it off my chest.
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Black_Kitty at 3:54PM, April 7, 2008
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I'm actually a pretty fidgety person. When I get upset, I generally have to move around so I pace.

I also rant to someone but that's more difficult for me to do. It's not the ranting part that's difficult but finding someone who's willing and understands enough to listen. I rant to work things out in my head, whether they be thoughts or feelings, but people oftentimes mistaken it for wanting advice or really meaning what I say. Sometimes I just want to let out steam even. So nowadays I don't rant to a lot of people.

I do do a lot of pacing though.
  
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usedbooks at 4:35PM, April 7, 2008
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Things that calm me when I am stressed/worried/frustrated:

~Cleaning/cooking
~Playing with pets (unless they are the cause of the frustration)
~A hot shower/bath especially with nice-smelling body wash
~Simple arcade/puzzle games on the computer

~Most effective for me is reading a book or watching a movie/episodes (esp. of my very favorite series) I've never seen before.
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dueeast at 4:51PM, April 7, 2008
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I forgot about that about myself. If I don't watch it, I start pacing.

Having seen my oldest son (he's 12) pick up that habit and seeing how annoying it is to watch, I'm trying not to do that unless I'm alone. lol!

Black_Kitty
I'm actually a pretty fidgety person. When I get upset, I generally have to move around so I pace.



I do do a lot of pacing though.
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Aussie_kid at 5:36AM, April 8, 2008
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I usually wait an hour or two and it goes away. Either that or I vent it in Microsoft Word. I used to write out something that made me mad in my rants every time I posted a page, until I realised no one wants to hear that, so I stopped and kept it all private.
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kingofsnake at 7:49AM, April 8, 2008
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I don't really get upset. I have a kinda bhuddistic response to things
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simonitro at 12:41PM, April 8, 2008
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Well, when I'm pissed and I want to calm myself, I'd:

- listen to some music
- talk to someone who I could trust
- relax on the bed
- try to think positive and encouraging thoughts
- watch cartoons or/and Anime


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PhatScurl at 1:49PM, April 8, 2008
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i get some some mild music, usually the Wallflowers or Nickel Creek, sit back and read comics online. Some time is play guitar, but overall i generally avoid interaction with people, mainly because people are usually my problem.

its my own way of just turning my brain off, and just not worrying at all for a little while.
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HippieVan at 2:04PM, April 8, 2008
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If I only have a small problem I just draw and talk to my dog. If I have a bigger problem or a lot of little ones, though, I'll usually throw or break something. At one point or another, I have broken 3(maybe 4, I'm not sure if one was my fault) out of the 6 doors in our house while I was mad. I'm trying to resolve some anger issues right now, obviously.
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worstcase at 8:52PM, April 8, 2008
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I don't get mad usually. But when i DO get angry, its the most horrible sight. ever. I remember clearly the incident when my brother pushed me to the breaking point. I began hitting him, pinning him down and pulling his hair. Then i hit him with one of those old wooden rulers. afterwards, I locked myself in the bathroom for 2 hours until he decided to move away from the door.

Thats a bad idea. Don't try that.
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7384395948urhfdjfrueruieieueue at 6:29PM, April 9, 2008
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I bottle it up until I want to kill myself and everyone around me.

I should probably stop doing that.

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kiandranishan at 8:33AM, April 10, 2008
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I meditate…and if that doesn't work I put some music on and dance. Dancing always makes me happy ^^
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