isukunshow me any actual situations where people applaud women hitting men for no good reason at all? Because seriously I've never seen that happen.
That was never my argument. I never said anything about being applauded for hitting a guy for no reason. The double standard is that if a guy hits a girl, even if he has a good reason, it's considered bad. Women fighting back is encouraged, men fighting bad is discouraged.But that doesn't mean that boys are never kidnapped just because they stayed out late.
And just because you weren't hit by a truck yesterday that doesn't mean it won't happen today. Does that mean you'll stay in your house from now on? Nothing is life is 100% safe, but the odds of a teenage boy getting carted away are still significantly less than a teenage girl. Adults can be kidnapped too, maybe they should stay locked up in their homes at all hours, as well. Hell, mandatory curfews for everyone.
In fact, just a quick look at the statistics seems to suggest that only a minority of kidnapping cases are perpetrated by strangers. Of those cases, 75% are kids under the age of 11, and of the rest the vast majority are female. As the numbers dwindle, it looks more like male teens are less likely to be kidnapped than an adult. After all, most kidnappings of male teens aren't done for sexual reasons, unlike more kidnappings of female teens. Male teens tend to get kidnapped more for money than anything else. If that's the incentive, you're better off mugging someone who looks like they have a job.
You seem to be heading in the opposite direction I would take, anyway. I tend to prefer to give kids some freedom rather than take it away equally.
I'm not talking about cooping up kids inside their homes forever.
I'm just talking about parents letting teenage boys stay out UNREASONABLY LATE around 11pm to 3am doing whatever it is that they want to do. They think teenage boys have the ability to defend themselves against ANYTHING, even if they're completely drunk from “partying” so much.
Whereas Teenage girls are oh so Helpless against ANYTHING and therefore the teenage girls have to be home by 6pm as opposed to the teenage boys.
That's wrong in my opinion. If you live in certain areas where there's higher chances of crimes late at night, then there's a higher chance that the said teenage boys could get in deep trouble here. Even if they don't get kidnapped, plenty of things still can happen to them.
Somebody here brought up female-on-male rapes. which brings me to another point here against parents letting doing thier teenage boys do whatever they want, even party all night.
did you know that 70% of female-on-male rapes involving teenage boys usually occurred when the teenage boys were passed out from drinking, and were prone to being sexually taken advantage of by the females? This is a part of why the male victims don't report it….they're upset by it, but they don't exactly remember well whenever they consented to it or not. Or, they were one of the many who actually thinks that just because parts of their bodies responded to the forced simulation, that they had to find it pleasurable somehow.
Those are the same exact reasons why some women don't report being raped, by the way. They don't remember if they said yes while they were drunk, or they feel guilty that their own body involuntary had reacted to the forced simulation. They then feel that they must had wanted it somehow.
To me, that's one of the good reasons not to let teenage boys stay out so late just because they're males.
But since you brought up adults being kidnapped too…. how about this– Most adults know better to stay home at late hours if they happen to live in neighborhoods with high crime-rates. Because to do otherwise increases their chances of being killed, kidnapped.. in fact you could say the odds increases all the way to 90% at night as opposed to the 0.5% chance during the daytime.
hell, even in safer areas where there's low crime rates they still know better than go go out that late.
What rational adult would decide to go for a walk in a dark alleyway at 3am? Not many would, that's for sure.
So all I'm saying is that COMMON SENSE should be exercised here–EVERYONE's at risk late at night, regardless of their gender and age.
As for men hitting women for a good reason still being considered “bad”… I would have to say it would also depend on the area you live in.
I recall an incident here some years back where there was a string of late night muggings. And keep in mind this was actually in an state that had the LOWEST crime rate out of the whole United states alone… which was why people were so shocked and worried about the muggings in their area.
It turned out that an woman had been the perpetrator… and the one who had caught her was some dude who had to defend himself against this woman. He punched her right in the face to knock her out, and he was actually applauded for catching the criminal. Nobody even once said: “omfg!! he punched her in the face, the fiend!! I don't care if he was doing it to defend himself against an criminal… you still don't hit a woman!!!111111!!!”