I'm a size 24, and 220 lbs. My friends are all much smaller then me. I have only one or two plus sized friends. My friends don't make me want to lose weight, and shock I know, but I haven't made them want to gain. Thats such a load of bull. We go out to eat together, they eat my cooking, we do all the same activities. And some how…wow…I don't shrink and they don't grow. Stunning.
Could it be? Perhapses a difference in the chemicals of the body? Noooooooo. We're just fat and lazy and naturally we encourage others to be the same.
I'm proud to be a bid woman. And my friends find me sexy as I am and I think they look just as good the way they are.
And I'm far from lazy. I work 50 hours a week in a warehouse! I to tai chi. I also play loads of DDR. I go on long walks. I'm just so tired of people telling me that I need to change. Screw CNN and any news channel encouraging this!
The “chemical differences in the body” is a myth. Unless you have a thyroid condition or something. You don't see any overweight people in Sudan. Overweight people are overweight because of their diet and exercize, and not necessarily their current diet and exercize, but their diet and exercize growing up. Your body wants to stay the same weight that it is now, whether you're skinny or fat, so if you want to change that, you need to drastically change your lifestyle. It's almost as much work gaining 20 pounds in the next 3 months as it is losing it. If you're eating properly you're not going to gain weight or lose weight, you're going to stay the same. So if you're exercizing *some* and your skinny friends are exercizing *some* and you're eating healthy sometimes and unhealthy sometimes but basically staying around your daily required calorie intake you're not going to lose weight and they're not going to gain weight. So it is perfectly feasible that you and your friends have absolutely identical diet and exercise habits and you weigh quite a bit more than them. Losing weight requires that you exercize more than is nessecary and eat food that is consistantly healthier than usual. Just like gaining weight requires that you do less work than usual, and eat unhealthier foods. It's unfair to criticize overweight people for their current habits, because they're usually overweight because growing up, when they didn't know better, they had bad habits. It says nothing about their habits now.
I'm not saying you need to lose weight. The important thing is that you're happy. I'm saying don't blame it on a chemical imbalance unless you have an actual medical condition. I'm saying accept that the reason you're overweight now is that you didn't always have good eating habits. Or at least blame your parents.
The whole “are your fat friends making you fat” is another one of those media half-truths. I remember a few months ago they had a “are your kids making you fat” dealie. The idea was that you're buying sweets for your kids and then eating them yourself. But the easy answer to that is, stop buying so much junkfood for your kids.
The argument *could* be made that your fat friends have a worse diet than you, but as Ladyknight can attest, thats not always the case. Whether you're 110 or 210 pounds the amount of food you need to eat to just maintain body weight is relatively the same. Someone who's been maintaining a bodyweight of 250 pounds for the last five years, is likely going to have a relatively similar diet as someone who's been maintaining 150. The thing is though, with overweight people it's much more likely that they havn't been maintianing for five years, but rather are all over the map, losing 20 pounds, gaining five, losing seven, gaining fifteen, and so on. If you're a 110 and have the exact same lifestyle you're going to gain more weight than you lose because its much harder to lose 5 pounds when your 110 because you have less weight to lose, whereas the diffuclty of gaining 5 pounds is the same regardless of how much you weigh. I think Hawk's point is more valid though. When I was in college I had a much stronger urge to go to the gym when I was in the dorm wing full of skinny freshmen than I did when I was in the wing full of linebackers. You compare yourself to those around you, if you're around fat people alot you'll think “I'm not that fat, I can eat icecream for dinner.” Which is not only the beginning of gaining weight, but the beginning of starting a bad habit.
When push comes to shove, if you're gaining weight, it's because you're not exercizing the self-control to eat heathy and exercize regularly. America is more obese now that it's ever been. You can blame it on transitive fats, fast food, the increasing number of office type jobs, or your fat friends, but if you're gaining weight you need to take responsibility for your actions, develop some willpower, eat healthier and exercize more. And if you're already overweight, then you need to go even further in order to make up for your bad habits of the past. Stop playing the blame game america.I Don't Want to be the Fat Kid