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Virginity being restored?
Aurora Moon at 11:10PM, Feb. 28, 2006
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http://women.timesonline.co.uk/article/0,,17909-2057781,00.html

Like a virgin…
Joanna Walters

Women are having surgery to rejuvenate their love lives


When Jeanette Yarborough decided to give her husband a gift for their seventeenth wedding anniversary she wanted it to be special. Really special. She decided that conventional treats such as Mediterranean cruises, gold watches, cars, a murder-mystery weekend, or even a boob job just weren’t going to cut it. She gave him something much more personal — and painful. Her virginity.
Well, sort of. Mrs Yarborough paid $5,000 (£2,860) to a cosmetic surgeon to stitch her hymen back together so she could “lose her virginity” all over again and her husband would have that thrilling conquest at the grand age of 40.



He did, and after that very expensive moment the ecstatic couple spent a passionate Valentine’s weekend last year having the kind of sex that they had almost forgotten about. Now they are busy telling family, friends and strangers that it is the best money they ever spent and everyone should do it.

“Now my sister is thinking of becoming a virgin again for her 45th birthday to surprise her husband,” says Mrs Yarborough gleefully, as she sits in her modest family home in San Antonio, Texas, talking unabashedly about such intimate matters.

She is not the first to choose the operation — a hymenoplasty — to repair the fragments of skin forming the traditional “gateway” to the vagina, years after originally losing it.

Women have resorted to backstreet hymen repair for centuries in religions and cultures in which marrying as a virgin is sacred and losing your “maidenhead” before matrimony can mean shame, or even being put to death. But an increasing number of women such as Mrs Yarborough are now electing to be “revirginised” using modern techniques as a purely cosmetic or lifestyle choice, to “put the sparkle” back into their marriage or give their husband a surprise on the second honeymoon.

They usually opt also to have one of the new “designer vagina” procedures, such as tightening up of the vaginal canal slackened by childbirth, or the cosmetic trimming of enlarged labia.

“I have affluent upper-class ladies coming in from Manhattan, getting ready for a second-honeymoon cruise or something like that. Or some women had a disappointing time the first time they were deflowered and now they have found someone special they would really like to give it up to,” says Dr Marco Pelosi, a gynaecologist and plastic surgeon who has a specialist clinic in Bayonne, New Jersey. He performs ten hymenoplasties a month.

“Ninety per cent of them are for women who are in big trouble if they do not appear to be a virgin when they get married. Then there are the small number who just want it done,” he says. For six to 12 weeks after the operation the woman cannot have sex or exercise vigorously while she heals up. Then she is ready to return, in a flash of additional pain, to her deflowered state. “Thousands of dollars, and it lasts a few seconds. People think it’s crazy but to my patients it does not matter. It means such a lot to them,” says Pelosi.

The operation is performed under general anaesthetic and takes up to an hour. The fragments of the broken hymen are made raw again using a laser, which cuts and cauterises simultaneously. Then the fragments are pulled together and stitched, leaving only the small vaginal opening associated with virginity.

The technique was pioneered by Dr David Matlock, a Beverly Hills plastic surgeon, about five years ago and he has trained a handful of others, most of whom have fanned out across the US, with one or two in Canada, to set up their own clinics (there are only about a dozen cosmetic surgeons in the US offering the procedure).

One doctor in Connecticut markets extensively in magazines and on the internet to British clients, offering international vaginal makeover packages that include flight, limousine transfer, hotel — and hymenoplasty. Most clients are Latin Americans, Saudi brides-to-be or British Muslims who fly in to be surreptitiously revirginised before marriage. But there is also a growing demand for “recreational” hymenoplasty. Indeed, it ’s now so common at two New York clinics that the price has dropped to $1,800 (£1,029).

Named after Hymen, the Greek god of marriage, the vaginal membrane has been a marker of virginity since the Stone Age, even though it can be ruptured by nonsexual activity, such as athletics or wearing tampons. It has always been a sensitive topic: Dr Matlock told The Times that he was happy to talk about all the “designer vagina” operations he offers — except hymen repair, because he has had death threats from religious groups outraged that the fallen faithful can buy a fake virginity. Even the American plastic surgery industry, which convinced nine million people last year — up by a quarter since 2000 — that their lives would be better if only they remodelled their breasts, thighs, tummy, bottom, eyelids, cheek, nose, etc, draws the line at “revirgination”.

Hymenoplasty is not licensed by any official plastic surgery or gynaecological association, it is not officially taught and it is so new and on the fringe that there are only anecdotal statistics. All the operations are done privately and paid for in full by the individual.

None of which bothers Jeanette Yarborough, who decided to have her hymen reconstructed in a combination operation with vaginal “rejuvenation” tightening. She looks adoringly at her husband, Louis, as she says: “What an awesome gift to give the man in my life who deserves everything. It was the most amazing thing I could give him as a woman,” she says. Louis Yarborough, 44, explains hastily that he did not expect such an extreme gesture from his wife and tried to dissuade her from going through the painful revirgination experience — both the surgery and losing it again to him.

So what do you think of this?

Do you think this is plain nuts, or actually something good?
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isukun at 6:38AM, March 1, 2006
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What a waste of $5000. I always thought the appeal of sex with a virgin was the supposed innocence that comes with someone so inexperienced, not the ripping flesh, pain, and bleeding. Unless you're really into the whole sado-masochism thing, I can't see much point to this procedure.

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ozoneocean at 8:41AM, March 1, 2006
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Well it's good for very religious people who have some awkward cultural traditions surrounding virginity… Always good to have a way around such things.

But to me it sounds just plain nasty and probably a little dangerous… What if something went wrong? And what about all the pain for no reason? Better to leave the ladybits alone. ^_^
Vaginas are nice enough as they are.
 
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ozoneocean at 10:06AM, March 1, 2006
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Of course, the best way around such things is to simply not believe in such silly nonsense in the first place.
True, but I was thinking of those poor women stuck in cultures where it's either dangerous, shameful, or it means they're shunned or something… It's hard to fight the beliefs of your entire country.
Still, for $5000 you could always move. But I suppose that's pretty fatuous considering people's roots usually mean more to them than their roots, (that’s an Australian joke :lol:).

I don't know about most people, but this “perfect body parts” thing is a bit freaky to me (aside from the hymen thing, referring more to the genital cosmetic surgery angle here). I really like the look of normal vaginas and things like that. Like everyone's body bits; each looks a bit different and is individual. I dunno, should penises all be made to look the same?
And then there are men who want extensions put on their penises, just like women who want tightened vaginas… The people who're at fault here aren't the silly buggers who pay for that sort of thing (people will buy anything), it's the greedy unscrupulous surgeons!
 
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magickmaker at 1:25PM, March 1, 2006
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My friends and I have a joke that, if you don't to anything risque for a while, your virginity will grow back. Guess this way would be easier.
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blackaby at 10:42AM, March 2, 2006
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I couldn't read that without crossing my legs. Eurgh. I guess if that's what people want…
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Black_Kitty at 1:40PM, March 2, 2006
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What a waste of $5000. I always thought the appeal of sex with a virgin was the supposed innocence that comes with someone so inexperienced, not the ripping flesh, pain, and bleeding. Unless you're really into the whole sado-masochism thing, I can't see much point to this procedure.

That's what I thought the appeal of virginity is too. I always thought that part of the reason why virginity is linked with purity is because of the innocent lack of experience and not because you're bleeding out of your crotch when you have sex.

I can understand undergoing this kind of procedure if you feel that your life is going to be threatened without it. What I don't understand is how anyone can throw down $5000 so they could pretend that they never had sex before but they clearly know they did. There can only be one first time experience because any other experience that comes after it wouldn't be first. :P (This is why I also find the idea of born again virgins as silly.)

But that's just my definition of virginity. I guess for other people, virginity hinges on a thin piece of skin. But if that's the case, what's the definition of virginity for men then?

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ccs1989 at 3:41PM, March 2, 2006
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:? That's a bit…strange.
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kyupol at 8:07PM, March 2, 2006
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Well men have it easy. If they want to relive virginity, they can just act really awkward in bed, ask a million times if they're doing it right, and come nowhere near pleasing the woman.

does not fvckin someone for so long make you a virgin again?

When I broke up with my ex in late 2003, havent touched any woman in 2004… 2005 hit it again… and I felt so awkward, scared, etc… etc… all the feelings associated with virginity.
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Inkmonkey at 8:29PM, March 2, 2006
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Man, I was an awesome virgin. I think most virgins fail because they forget about the power of “Foreplay”

Aaaanyway, back on topic… seriously, what the Hell? I mean, I'm sure it's nice having things cleaned up a bit downstairs from time to time, but why bother with the hymen thing? It's not like that part aids the sensation in any particular way; it's just in the way, in a sense.

I sure hope she didn't pay for that in cash.
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Mazoo at 10:42AM, March 4, 2006
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Haha, because you know what ‘paying in cash’ means…

I find this so unbelievably stupid. If you really meant so much to the person, and you really loved them in return, being a virgin or not or “reacting” being a virgin shouldn't matter at all.

I agree with Neil. Just a big waste of money. Give it to people who could really use it!
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x3022 at 10:09PM, March 4, 2006
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huge waste of money that only lasts seconds!

now a quality boob job lasts the rest of your life? that's where the ladies ought to be putting their money. most definately!

(please don't flame me, i'm just having fun)
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