SS5 86 The Quiet Date
skyangel on March 6, 2015
This is based on the one and only date I ever really regretted turning up for! If people are rude to me or way up their own butts, I have no problem in being rude back or walking away from them, but if someone is genuinely a nice person I just can't do it and I tend to feel I'm letting them down by not being able to open them up. Most people do when you hit on the right subject and as a back up in my early days I used to have an alphabet system in my head to try and ensure the converstaion never dried up on a date, basically something like: Art, Books, Children, Dates, Eccentricities, Friends etc.
I think I only used the system on two occassions as most girls I met were really chatty anyway but it's always my philosophy to be over prepared because at least I can feel more confident even if they don't. Despite all my efforts though this one drained me! lol I seem to remember that towards the end I was so confused by her lack of input that I asked why she was doing the online dating and she replied, ‘My mum made me.’
Have a nice week! :)
tommym at 12:56PM, March 14, 2015
Dear Sky, et al @ I agre with most of your thought on this Tess Agree that alfa infra delta and omega alphabet systems can go on (x1....try symbolic --- numericaicals thats why theire' there other spots to go too? Is Sarah tring to hide her feelings for Jenny? tommym
TessMcTessy at 6:29AM, March 13, 2015
Wait wait, don't etc at G? What's G? What's G? Grades? Gardening? Gnomes? But that's alphabet system is neat, I should try that instead of just grasping for conversation starters at random. Anyway, if it's the same Abi, I can see why this woman didn't wanna talk about the date, but jeepers, why did she even go out if she wasn't even going to try to engage? And poor Sarah is trying so hard. But in novels and comics or any work of fiction rather, I always feel bad for the bad dates. They exist just to be disliked. I like to imagine them finding their soul mate not long after their final scene in the fiction. (For this one I'm picturing her telling her soul mate about that one date that just kept having to pee.)
tommym at 9:11AM, March 12, 2015
Dear skyangel I never had a worse date tommym
skyangel at 7:07AM, March 9, 2015
Barry: Yeah I think that's probably true for so many of us. Once you know the other person is easy going and has a sense of humour it's amazing how relaxed you become.
skyangel at 6:58AM, March 9, 2015
Bear: Haha That's true dedication when you ask your abuser to marry you. ;)
skyangel at 6:56AM, March 9, 2015
Arici: Haha I've met people like that at parties etc. but never on a date. That is so horrible though isn't it because at first you think fair enough but then you start to feel it HAS to be more personal. I've often had guys do that to me too as if they think by constantly disagreeing and correcting me I'll be impressed! I sometimes feel like saying, 'Wow, you're a really smart guy and thankyou so much for choosing my inferior mind to help boost your large ego!
skyangel at 6:44AM, March 9, 2015
Udyr: OMG yes!! Nothing worse than being forced to stand with people you can't relate to!! When I was at art college the first year was my first ever and I had real trouble making any friends as everyone else already knew each other from the start. The worst moments for me were when we had to stand outside the classroom waiting for the teacher to come. Long before mobile phones and Snake or Tetris! I could probably have written a book about the different types of flooring and light fittings!
skyangel at 6:39AM, March 9, 2015
Tupapayon: I much prefer quiet to loud any day and humour's good because it makes for a nice relaxed atmosphere. :)
skyangel at 6:25AM, March 9, 2015
Tommym: Wow, that's a pretty interesting background history you have there! Sarah does indeed know of Emma Peel and the Avengers She was actually my very first idol when I was about 8 and I always wanted to be like her! lol
skyangel at 6:21AM, March 9, 2015
Kim: Your comment reminded me of my first partner who had no interests or hobbies other than watching soaps on TV so when she was alone and feeling bored she would phone a friend to break the monotony. One of them once told me that when she picked up the phone and heard the line 'Hi, it's me... what's new?' She felt like screaming, 'You phoned ME, so you do the talking!!'
BarryCorbett at 6:14AM, March 9, 2015
Ha! I remember a date like that. I later found out she was terrified. Once she relaxed, the words began to flow.
DarkVisor at 12:28PM, March 8, 2015
Poor Sarah :(
tommym at 10:53AM, March 8, 2015
Dear Sky, I leave open the idea,Sarah is with some one who may one day be promoted or transfered to an GHQ or Mi 5/6 or something. I truly hope Sarah and Jenny do go on another "date" of sorts. Jenny can never be Janey yet Jenny seems to have certain qualities Sarah can enjoy. the do good nature of social worker Sarah would have a field day of human behavior studies with the data files Jenny has access to. tottally love this page tommym P.S. I know some people wh
tommym at 10:37AM, March 8, 2015
Dear Sky, Yes again. To read her mind I can only ponder a guess.Sarah would love to be with Jenny, but so many factors to think about Jenny is a person who may be able to "connect the dots" on her own brain level there and then between what happened in the past with the death of that guy. Imagine trying to date Jane Blond,or asking Jenny "Scene any good kills Lately? " Instead of say "read any good books lately?" I had a difficult time relating years ago. trying to study military space cafablites in a science fictional kind of way.I had a rough time at times speaking when I did in fact know future type recording devices will be in play My mother worked with the FBI from 1939 till 1950 when I was born. My father was with the Mosler Safe company 15+ years. Radio pick up the size and looks of an olive became possable with the developement of the transister. Sarah must know about the British tv show "the Avengers Avergers Emma Peel and John Steed
BearinOz at 5:10AM, March 8, 2015
That's interesting, Arici - the girl _I_ had like that was the one I ended up marrying ! ...did I do wrong ? B-)
arici at 11:28PM, March 7, 2015
Haha! Worst date I ever had was with a girl who disagreed on literally everything I said. "I like flowers" - "I don't like flowers, because (insert whatever reason)". "Oh, I think the weather is so nice today!" - "I don't think so, because...". Poor Sarah! Wonder how that Abi date went :D
Udyr at 7:05PM, March 7, 2015
Oh nooo I can feel her pain. Those people are so unbelieveable hard to cope with. I've met people and done this, not on dates but when you start on a new job or course or something and want to chat up people... And you realize they're absolutely NOT interested in having a conversation, yet somewhat they're standing there because there's no where else to go. Haha! I'm giving Sarah a star in the book for keeping her motivation going to find someone though. :D But the gay bar thing i'm guessing might be the best place to hook up with people as you're a bit more in control.
BearinOz at 4:28PM, March 7, 2015
God ! Cringeworthy B-) I only ever asked out a few girls. The first I went out with, I never even really asked - she was the daughter of my mother's friend - and saw my photo on the sideboard during a visit - and amazingly thought "he's O.K.!" B-)
tupapayon at 11:01AM, March 7, 2015
I tend not to talk much… but with dates I find ways to make them laugh… probably a defense mechanism…
Phantomduck at 9:01AM, March 7, 2015
Sarah never gave up at least.
tommym at 8:09AM, March 7, 2015
Dear Sky, totally love your every thing in these panels eyes hands facial expressions analitical facebook study s covetly clandetine- What you say twitter speakk dialect discerns where you live.- computer know you better than friends( (except spouse) ) DARPA has money for mathimatical neurobrain project wants to fix damaged brains But I digress Love every panel...tommym
DarkVisor at 7:13AM, March 7, 2015
Will be back in a couple days (when the browser is behaving itself) and comment properly
KimLuster at 4:47AM, March 7, 2015
I love all the different panels, with Sarah's awkward squirming! :) Not just dates - I can't stand being around ANYBODY like this!! I had someone that would call ME on the phone all the time, and I'd have to drag the conversation out like this! Gaaaahhhh!