kawaiidaigakuseiwrote:
Thank you everyone for feedback on the subject of one-uppers! I have been evaluating some of my social circles lately and seen where I no longer see eye-to-eye on life priorities. There is such a thing as a toxic friend and it is not healthy to be around people who are cold. I have decided to surround myself with positive people who bring out the best in me and to distance myself from personalities who drag me down. I read that you start out your twenties with a lot of friends and leave your twenties with a few quality ones. I need to hang out with more creative types–like webcomic creators–you are all awesome!
I was secretly expecting a simple, one-dimensional answer like, "Thirty-Five. People stop caring about what others think at Age Thirty-Five." Of course humans are not one-dimensional, some are very complex. The trickiest part is when a friendship has a history that spans many years.
In fact, you have all shared a wealth of knowledge that has definitely shaped my perspective for the better. One thing is for sure from the look of it, there will always be people who try to be better than everyone else. But from the tone of responses, people wise up to the fact that it is all nonsense and gain a sense of humor from it.
Oh that's some tricky stuff. I had a similar thing happen in my early twenties. My life changed dramatically in a span of a couple of months and I eventually had a falling out with some of my friends whom I had known for ten years.
The reality that I had to accept was that I was dealing with a lot of personal pain and obstacles, that my life priorities were different, and that my life itself was different. People change and evolve so friendships have to evolve with it. This is especially true if these are friends from high school. In high school, everyone is, for the most part, hitting similar life mile stones. When you get out of high school, things change and they change at different times and pace for people. I have friends who still go to clubs/pubs and drink until they're smashed out of their minds. In that same circle of friends, I have someone who is a mother now and her baby's bedtime is at 8 PM. Her pub crawl days are over. (Also nothing like a mortgage to be that cold rain on your parade.) Nobody's right or wrong, we just have different priorities.
I still see these friends, but with less frequency. We've known each other for almost 17 years. At the time of the falling out it was painful. I felt incredibly lonely. But I needed a different kind of friendship because the one I had then was for a different person, a person I couldn't be anymore.
Sorry I am super long winded! Good luck with things!
Also I like this quotation from Louis CK:
The only time you look in your neighbor's bowl is to make sure that they have enough. You don't look in your neighbor's bowl to see if you have as much as them.
Also, whoaaa, Black Kitty and ozoneocean posting on the forums makes it feel like it is 2007 again. ♪( ▽｀)Hello hello!
Hello, Black Kitty! I remember when you and Mr. Spook used to do Drive-Bys for the Night Gig on the Gigcast. I used to listen to that podcast just for the feature spotlights on DD peeps. You were also one of the original comic featurers/newspost writers. I think of you as a Drunk Duck celebrity/admin upperclassman.
This is better than ComicCon.
Awww! Thank you so much for listening to them! I had a lot of fun with Mister Spook (and later SpANG) doing them. So happy to hear that you were listening and enjoyed them too! :D
