KimLuster wrote:
Alzheimer's is such a tragic thing. Went with a friend and her father to visit her mother in a nursing home once. The mother didn't know who they were, and she introduced them to her new boyfriend (a man at the home)! The father took it well - I almost cried, for both of them!
@Kim – You're right. It is heartbreaking. A friend's father just recently passed after several years living with Altheimers. I don't know if one can say battle because at this point the disease is always going to win. But I have read some promising news about “breakthroughs”
@bravo – Yup, processed carbs will keel. But salt, not as much as all the hoopla would make one think–another one of those things that are actually healthful in moderation. Like fats. Gotta have those fats :)
@kawaii – As an air sign I find that getting out in nature is the best medicine for me. I'm also a “social introvert” (according to some Facebook quiz). It means I enjoy being with people, but they can sap every bit of energy I have if I don't break soon enough. But since I enjoy it, I'll push it too far – it's like I'm addicted to my own brand of poison.
I also have a son who is high-functioning autistic. The adage, God gives only what we can handle, makes some sense to me because I've spent time with high-needs autistic over the years and I couldn't handle it. My son is so close to independent in many ways that I count my lucky stars, but even so, I worry. And worry. And it doesn't take too much to transform into a Mama Grizzly if I see he's being threatened.
Most parents of special needs children, when asked “How do you do it?” reply “you just do. Do what you can.” But every parent has fears for their child no matter how well equipped they are. The fears for ones who are severely challenged, who are entirely unlikely to ever be independent in any way, can be crippling.
A severely autistic person. A person with Altheimers. I think of a God visiting these challenges on families, and marvel at the strength these families must have to live their lives.
But there's also this – and I am ONLY speaking about my personal situation: if someone told me when my son was 5 yrs old that one day I would be grateful that he was autistic, I would have thought they were cruel, at best. But I've realized there is a silver lining. Caring for my son, getting to know him over the years – it's made me a better person. I would have gone through life veiled in an egocentricity with the character depth of a puddle if I hadn't been forced to get outside of myself. Many people know how to do that from the moment they were born, but I wasn't one of them. I'm a better person than I would have been because of my son. And my daughter, but they are very different people.
I wish I could believe that every parent/caregiver had a similar silver lining. Sometimes it's just too exhausting to even consider such things.